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Success shouldn't be an emotional struggle.

Having someone, especially someone you care about, verbally or emotionally "pick away" at the positive achievements in your life, quickly becomes discouraging, disheartening and disillusioning.

Is there someone you care about who may be consciously or unconsciously undermining your motivation to succeed?

Emotional support is important. It's natural to want encouragement from the important people in your life. If you're feeling a lack of enthusiasm and emotional support from significant others, family, friends and loved ones, the question becomes - what's making them unhappy and/or uncomfortable with your success?

The human mind reacts instantly, powerfully and effectively to any form of discomfort, whether actual or imagined. For example, if your successes begin to make someone you care about uncomfortable, the person experiencing this discomfort will unconsciously want you to experience his/her discomfort too. After all they unconsciously rationalize, you're the one creating the discomfort. It's like a knee-jerk reaction, I'm uncomfortable so I need you to share my discomfort. I'd venture to guess that the majority of discouraging and sabotaging slings and arrows you receive are unconscious and unplanned.

The human mind does whatever it takes, to preserve and protect the status-quo. Even, if the status quo is disempowering or negative. After all, the status quo is comfortable.

Logically, it doesn't matter that your successes will improve the lives of those around you. If the other people in your life aren't ready for change, then unconsciously or even consciously, they'll still do whatever it takes to protect the tried and true.

Think about your desire to achieve this way. Your loved ones aren't the ones walking in your shoes. Everyone sees the world through their own eyes, framed by their own life experiences.

More than likely, they didn't even realize that their way of life would have to change just because you want to become more successful. That can be a rude and powerful "aha" for many of your inner circle of friends and family. If you're bombarded with discouragement and negativity, then those people closest to you are uncomfortable with the "unknowns" of your success. They're wondering - How will you change? Will you still have time for them? Will you still care about them? It's time to sit down and analyze what's creating the stress within yourself and the discomfort within the other important people in your life.

Here are two questions to ask yourself - take pen and paper and set aside some quiet time to think about and write out the answers. Finding the reason for the subtle, but powerful, sabotaging messages is a beginning to discovering the solutions -

1. Make a list of all people you believe are unhappy and/or uncomfortable with your desire to improve and empower yourself. Does the discouragement usually originate within your family? Or, is it through the words or actions of friends? Or, maybe it's the often joking "zings" of coworkers? Which one person, of all the people you've listed, seems to be able to hurt and disturb you the most? How? Why does it hurt so much?

2. Is there a pattern to what happens between you and the other person (people) just before the discouragement or negativity begins? Did you share a hope or dream, talk about something that made you happy but that they weren't a part of, receive monetary or emotional recognition from someone of authority or, have to take some of your time and energy away from them? There's something happening that creates an emotional "hurt" within the other person (people) - that's what you're discovering by answering this question. You can't address the problem and find solutions, if you don't recognize and understand the root of the problem.

Becky Kimes is a professional coach, speaker and author who specializes in helping women break through the invisible barriers keeping them from manifesting their dreams. She works with individuals, and conducts live workshops and tele-seminars. More information can be found at http://www.goingforsuccess.com

People enjoy getting a chance to win something, so here are a some easy fundraiser raffle ideas to boost your fundraising efforts. Your raffle can be an inexpensive ticket for a prize drawing or a $100 ticket for a big prize such as a big screen television or a new car.

The basics of a raffle fundraiser are quite simple. Your costs are limited to the ticket expense and purchasing the prizes. Often times, local merchants will donate items or offer special discounts to nonprofits or school groups.

As with any fundraiser, the better the items offered, the more funds you raise. Your fundraising raffle can be of short duration or have tickets for sale for a month or more.

It all depends on how much you are trying to raise and what type of raffle you conduct.

Get Publicity
Publicity is the key element of a fundraiser raffle, particularly when offering an expensive grand prize. Issue a press release and make sure it reaches the appropriate persons at local media outlets such as newspapers, radio stations and local television.

Also get the word out through your newsletter and website as far in advance as possible. Aim to build excitement and anticipation with your supporters for the prizes to be offered.

Assign various aspects of ticket sales to as broad of a base as possible. By avoiding having one or two people try to handle everything, you'll reach a much larger number of prospects.

Door Prizes
Everybody loves winning a door prize at an event, so keep that in mind when deciding how many prizes to give away.

Be sure to sell raffle tickets at the door as that is the prime time for an impulse buy.

Keep your prize expense to roughly one-third of your projected revenue.

Automobile Drawing
A new car raffle is always a huge draw because it appeals to almost every adult. Because of the prize expense, you'll need to decide the best balance between ticket prices and total revenue.

I've seen car raffles priced anywhere from $20 to $100 with proportionately more tickets needing to be sold when prices are lower. In this example, five times as many $20 tickets need to be sold.

Multiple Prizes
Having multiple prizes increase the chances of winning, but more importantly, it also increases the chance that people will buy a ticket or even multiple tickets.

The psychology behind providing multiple prizes is proven to increase participation because people are more likely to consider the odds more in their favor. There is also a belief that having various prizes also increases the chance of having one that appeals strongly to almost anyone.

Among the most popular prizes are big screen TVs, CD players, iPods, gift certificates, spa visits, and weekend getaways.

50/50 Raffle
Here you are doing a door prize raffle, but the prize is half the ticket sales. It certainly simplifies things and most people like the idea of winning cash.

A 50/50 raffle works great at sporting events such as football or basketball games, but it can also be used at any type of event.

Cash Calendar Raffle
This raffle idea combines a calendar sale with a chance at winning a prize. Each calendar purchase includes a raffle ticket for a prize drawing for a certain amount of cash.

Some groups do just one prize drawing from the raffle tickets. Others offer a continuing series of cash drawings, usually on a weekly basis.

Prices for cash calendar fundraisers are often in the $20-$25 range, depending on the cash prize drawing. A weekly prize of $50 or $100 is common, with larger prizes of $500 or $1,000 being offered at some stages of these fundraisers.

Raffle Ideas Wrap-up
A fundraiser raffle is a great way to raise funds, either as a standalone fundraiser or in conjunction with an fundraising event. For instance, you can add a raffle to a school carnival, a black tie charity event, or even a car wash.

The most important thing is to offer attractive prizes with widespread appeal and price your tickets to maximize total revenue. It doesn't do any good to overprice the tickets because total ticket sales will suffer. Choose the right price point to stimulate impulse buys.

Most people will make an emotion-based decision to participate and then justify it with logic, so make sure your raffle prizes seem really attractive in comparison to the ticket cost.

Kimberly Reynolds writes for national publications about youth fundraisers, fundraiser raffle ideas and church fundraisers. Find more school fundraising ideas on her website, FundraiserHelp.com

If you are plus size and also a tall woman, when it comes to clothes shopping, you probably feel like a minority. There are lots of clothing choices for plus size women and some specialty stores carry tall womens clothing, but put the two combinations together and your choices are limited. Here are a couple of clothing stores options for the tall plus size woman:

1.Fashion Bug carries a few tall plus size pants in inseams up to 35 inches long. Fashion Bug has a special department for tall plus size clothing including jeans, career pants and tall leggings.

2.A great option for the tall plus size woman, is Custom Made Clothing. Lands End is a great choice as you can get custom sized clothing in jeans, chinos and dress shirts. You specify the inseam length up to 40 inches long. You can also get your pants with or without a cuff. They also offer many style choices such as natural or relaxed fit, different waist style choices and flat front or pleated front. Their custom department makes it easy to get pants exactly the way you want them. I have used this option for both shirts and chinos and have been satisfied.

3.Avenue.com has some tall plus size clothing and they even offer designer jeans by Seven for All Mankind with inseam lengths to 33 inches. Avenue has other tall plus size pants with inseams to 34 inches.

If you are a tall plus size woman, you may have to search a little longer to find clothing that is long enough, but the good news is that there are more options available today than ever.

Visit Tall Clothing Mall at http://www.tallclothingmall.com - a great resource for tall men and tall women looking for tall clothing,plus size clothing,big and tall clothing, tall maternity, and large size shoes. This website was created by Krista Mayne, after she became frustrated by the amount of time she spent trying to find tall clothing.

Male breast enhancement has become a widespread phenomenon. What was once taboo has become an open field of discussion and personal expression. Many males seek to have their breasts feminized, either as the fulfillment of an inner desire or as part of a more complete personal transformation.

There are a number of over the counter supplements available today which provide these males with an avenue of achieving their goals. But what differentiates between these products and which should you use?

Male breast enlargement supplements are divided into 3 groups: Herbal pills, hormonal pills, herbal creams.

Herbal breast augmentation pills

These are pills which were originally made for the female breast market but have been found to be effective on males as well. These pills contain herbs and sometimes mild chemicals which contain Phytoestrogen. Phytoestrogen is a substance which mimics the female hormone, estrogen. It is Estrogen that determines the growth of the breasts. Males are deprived of breasts because they have a low amount of Estrogen in their bodies. You have to take these pills on a daily basis and the results can be impressive. Make sure that the pill you choose has been found effective on males.

Herbal Breast Enhancement Creams

Creams usually contain Phytoestrogen rich herbal extracts which you administer to the chest area by self massage. Creams also contain Collagen which smooths and rejuvenates the skin of the breasts, giving them a firmer and plumper look. Creams are usually less effective than pills, but they are excellent when you use them in conjunction with a breast enhancement pill (whether hormonal or herbal). They can accelerate the rate of breast growth and provide a more natural and perky look and feel.

Hormonal Breast Growth Pills

These are pills which either contain Estrogen or can induce your body to develop much higher quantities of Estrogen and reduce the production of male hormones. The higher levels of Estrogen stimulate natural breast growth just like in female adolescence. However, these pills may also initiate other feminization changes. I suggest that if you only wish to have more feminine breasts that you use Herbal pills and creams.

Whichever supplement you choose to use, it will take a little time to get to your desired results. This will be a gradual process in which you will be able to judge for yourself when you've reached your desired breast cup size.

To learn more about male breast augmentation, click here Male Breast Enhancement Review. Jasmine Dawkins is a contributing writer to the expert male breast enhancement website: www.Male-Breast-Enhancement.com.