Know Your Man: Love And Sex
Q: What is the similarity between a man and a microwave oven? A: They warm up in 15 seconds!
"Men have two emotions: Hungry and horny... If you see one without an erection, make him a sandwich." ~ Anon
Q: How can you tell if a man is horny? A: He's breathing.
"Sex alleviates tension. Love causes it." ~ Woody Allen
In matters of love and sex, of course, as with many other things, men and women are not in the same page. Men need sex to give love; women need love to have sex. We all have our experience regarding this: you want some cuddling and he wants sex. You need some TLC; he wants sex. You want closeness and warmth; he wants sex. You really want to take a nap; he wants sex. Can they think about nothing else? It seems they cant. According to statistics, men think about sex an average of 6 times per hour. Six times per hour! Can you imagine that? It is no wonder he has a sexual response for every single physical gesture we made.
At the beginning of relationships, when we are in love (or should I say, lust?) and we see God in the form of the beloved, we are game. Sex? Sure, we say. We have no problem with that. Then, times goes by and we start to wear out. We have children and only by a miracle we feel like having sex ever again. Anything can be an aggravation in our daily life and we fell like having no sex whatsoever. We change big time; men dont.
Given that we are the ones who change; can we take responsibility for the integrity of our relationship? I think we must admit that we are at fault, and so, it is up to us to remedy the situation. How do we do this? By giving in. Also, think that most of the times when we dont want to have sex but do it anyway, we usually change our minds when we are getting closer to an orgasm. So, fake till you make it.
Before you set your attack dogs at me, let me say that it makes sense to oblige. If love is what we want, and we can surely get it after sex, then, it follows that the only way out is by giving sex and receiving love in return. This may very well be the breaking point of our relationship. Are we willing to do what it takes to save it?
Word of Advice Ladies: This is definitely the sink or swim situation. Perhaps we could compromise: a ratio of 3:1, meaning 3 times we have sex first to one time we receive love first. We can also compromise on the same ratio being: 3 times we have sex, one time we do not.
Gents: Given that this is probably the most important factor in your relationship, try to understand that women go through changes. Though it is totally unfair, perhaps you could compromise and give some loving before you are consumed by lust?
Maria Moratto 2006
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